For today's homework, let's have a look at what is commonly called 'cancel culture'.

Cancel culture is the new name for the wave of firings and cancellations of significant executives and celebrities when evidence is found that they have been racist, sexist or abusive. Think Matt Lauer, Harvey Weinstein, Woody Allen, R Kelly, Iggy Azalea, Lana del Rey, Alison Roman and various powerful editors (I almost wrote 'idiots' which may be more apt) of the New York Times and other publications.

I've seen a lot of powerful people recently talking about how afraid they are of 'cancel culture', how scared they are of 'making one tiny mistake and losing everything they've ever worked for'.

Cancel culture, however, is a myth, and it's important to understand why.

There are statistics to show that less than 20% of racist incidents at work are recorded (despite being reported). When studying prominent corporate executives that have lost their jobs in 2016-2019 from racist incidents, each executive had an average of three unique prior complaints made before action was taken. There are statistics to show that it takes approximately eight reports of domestic violence made before charges and a conviction will be made. There are statistics to say that of every 1000 sexual assaults reported, four thousand sexual assaults were actually committed, only three perpetrators will be convicted, only one will serve more than three months jail.

Anecdotally: Every single woman I know, for their own safety, has quit a job, avoided a job role or left a community place (such as a gym, library, medical centre or tertiary class) because of unavoidable verbal, sexual or physical harassment.

Every single BIPOC (that is, Black and Indigenous People of Colour) that I know, for their own safety, has quit a job, avoided a role, or left a community place because of unavoidable racism, ostracision or discrimination.

Every single LGBTQI+ person I know, for their own safety, has quit a job, avoided a job role or left a community place because of unavoidable homophobia, discrimination or harassment.

In short: The victims, not the perpetrators, have been forced to 'cancel themselves' out of income, promotions, education, and opportunities, for many decades, in order to escape abuse and mistreatment. I have, more than once. (I would stretch this too to include BIPOC and minority allies who often become targets for abuse after supporting victims).

Cancel culture has been running rampant and unabated for a long time in our offices, our classes, our creative industries. The only thing that has changed in modern 'cancel culture' is that it is the people that have, statistically, committed multiple acts of racism, sexism or abuse before being caught, are the ones losing their immense and not-deserved privilege.

There is a saying 'to whom much is given, much is expected'. It's not unreasonable that an editor (on a salary of $163,000 p/a, more than six times the average national salary) in charge of a newspaper that reaches 130 million people monthly, should be held to a reasonably high standard of fairness and behaviour.

Cancel culture is not to be feared. For every op-ed bemoaning 'cancel culture', there are thousands of BIPOC or LGBTQI+ or female journalists with skills and stories to tell. There are thousands of musicians, thousands of would-be politicians, businesspeople, interns, singers, dancers, yoga teachers, sportspeople, writers, hospital staff, retail workers, chefs and every type of human being that is more than qualified, capable and ready to step into those roles without being abusive, racist, sexist or discriminatory.

I’m seeing a lot of incredible unpacking-racism work in the white and non-black POC spiritual communities! Most of you follow my writing over at the @kelseykorero Instagram, but today we’re looking at something a little more extensive than is possible in a IG caption! I wanted to share here some less-obvious challenges to think about:


- The model minority myth is something upheld often by both elders in the BIPOC community (out of a desire for their children’s future safety) and in the white community too, both in a “positive” and negative sense which are both harmful. This is the upholding of a “model” minority citizen who has been successfully assimilated to society, both as something to be inspired by, as a representative or as a “there’s no excuse” erasure of other minority narratives. For example, Barack Obama and Oprah are both upheld to the black community to say “well racism can’t be real, these two succeeded so why can’t you”!

- This myth fails in several ways. Firstly, it doesn’t admit that many “Model Minorities” have benefited from proximity to whiteness and wealth which enables them to become that model. Barack Obama, for example, was socialised mainly by a white mother in a middle-class suburb who provided exceptional early education, consistent schooling and social/financial security by which he was able to attain a Harvard degree, community relationships and even his first secure job.

Also, successful assimilation to white society often means a huge loss of BIPOC culture, language & relationships. Just because a BIPOC HAS assimilated doesn’t mean that extreme harm hasn’t been done, and loss of culture/social isolation is a huge cause of suicide even among middle-class BIPOC. It often creates self-hating BIPOC who are forced to distance themselves from their people in order to secure their own safety. From here we get those often-heard excuses like “I have a black friend and they don’t mind if I say the N-word!” or “My uncle is Aboriginal but he doesn’t care about changing the flag!”. Just because one assimilated BIPOC is in your proximity, doesn’t mean that a positive outcome has taken place. In fact, if surrounded by people who erase their identity, many BIPOC do it to themselves and it can take years to develop the strength and self-esteem to challenge this.

- Another big point for white people is that they aren’t taught to see themselves as “WHITE people”, just “people”. They are taught to normalise themselves and Other non-white people. This even in “non-racist people”, believe me, I have done it myself in the past! Ever described an event to someone as “this Asian lady driving” or “John is this really nice black guy that does the deliveries”? Yeah, that’s cause whiteness is normalised and there’s never a need to say “this white guy I saw”, because unless told otherwise, that’s what is assumed.

This is important cause when a white person commits a crime anywhere, white people don’t get on social media to apologise on their behalf - they don’t even affiliate with them. But when white people share “uplifting” stories of “kind black men” and “friendly Muslims” etc, while it’s a good-hearted attempt to “change the narrative”, they’re ACTUALLY saying that they DO see BIPOC as “Other”. BIPOC don’t need uplifting stories of other BIPOC- we already know we’re human. Do you? The best thing you can do here is actually work on the worldview that places whiteness as the norm. Learn to accept the identification and connection to whiteness and white behaviour, instead of being offended that you are being “othered” like everybody else. Whiteness is NOT the standard. I’m not saying it is BAD, I’m saying that it’s not “normal” to which everybody else deviates.

- Finally! (I know this is a lot for a social media post so thank you for being committed to this work) the Model Minority myth gets used a lot in refugee/immigrant debate. It’s trying to be helpful, I understand! Things like, sharing stories of refugees that are doctors, lawyers or save kittens or do groceries for old ladies or brain surgery - I.e. model minorities. Again, attempting to change the narrative that “refugees/BIPOC migrants are bad dangerous people”. The thing is, that it doesn’t actually change any bigoted person’s view because they are INGRAINED with the dehumanisation of minorities. In fact it makes them worse, because they then say “Well if Dr Charlie was a refugee, what excuse do these ones have to protest/hunger strike/etc?! The majority of them aren’t like HIM” (I.e. assimilated - see my first point). The thing is... BIPOC don’t NEED to be doctors or lawyers to have the right to live. As a white or non-black person, have you ever thought “I’d love my child to become a doctor... that way they’re less likely to get murdered or deported”? No.

BIPOC are normal people whose fundamental human rights aren’t dependent on anything, or requiring special behaviour to earn it. If they commit crimes, they should be charged & tried fairly and safely without threat to life. They can be doctors or teachers or retail staff or stay-at-home-parents or do-nothings the same way that non-black folk are. The core of trying to uphold “Model Minority” is rooted in structural racism that for centuries only valued BIPOC in relation to how they served white owners. Literally, BIPOC who didn’t assimilate well enough were first in line to be killed because it was believed that they were the closest sub-humans to animals. Whereas BIPOC who were forcibly instructed well enough to become “assimilated” were praised and considered to be ‘closer to white’ and therefore more worthy of life. Some other terms to look up “black exceptionalism” and “noble savage”.

Another thing is using the example of ‘peaceful’ exceptional BIPOC like Martin Luther King, Jr., Michelle Obama or the Dalai Lama to shame BIPOC into silence: someone’s ability to tolerate hatred and abuse doesn’t make them ‘better’ than those who will not. BIPOC worth is not measured in our happy acceptance of bullshit.

- One more: saying “I can’t be racist, I think BIPOC are beautiful!”.... thinking something is attractive doesn’t mean you treat it properly. You only need to look at the Kardashians to see how the admiration for BIPOC beauty has been corrupted into getting butt injections, lip inflations, dark spray tans, cornrows... in other words, stealing features of BIPOC women and tacking them into a white womans body. All the beauty but made more Eurocentric with waist liposuction and nose reduction. Both Kim and Kylie have been investigated for stealing from black artists & creators who don’t have the money to fight them in court. You MAY think BIPOC are beautiful or attractive. But it has nothing to do with being anti-racist. If you think BIPOC are beautiful, stick around and listen to their needs, desires and concerns.

Thank you guys for listening and for educating. If you benefit from any of my work, blog, articles, lessons and free resources online, I would ask that you make an affordable contribution to And continue to learn from BIPOC educators, creatives & friends! 💜

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If you’re an intuitive, sensitive or creative person, the next few months of Retrogrades are going to ask you to do the following: . BE CONSCIOUS IN THE INFORMATION THAT YOU RECEIVE. .

I read a study once- it said that in 1960, the average working adult’s brain took in around 75 new forms of stimuli a day. Reading a newspaper, for example, might be 20 of those. Listening to your partner talk about their day would be 3 or 4 bits of stimuli, watching the news would provide 5, and so on. . In 1995, the average adult’s brain took in around 150 new forms of stimuli a day, and this correlated with an increase in depression, addiction and stress-related disease. . The most recent study, from 2017, assessed that we now process 1,230 pieces of new information per day. We encounter 500+ social media posts, 30+ pictures of people’s bodies/possessions/family lives, 25+ articles, increased traffic noise, App updates, alarms, Youtube ads, TikToks….

Your brain is NOT designed to be comparing itself, and sizing up potential threats, so constantly. . I’m not here to tell you to get off the internets! But I will tell you that it has been proven that this over-stimulation is soooooo bad for us. In fact, overstimulation has such a numbing effect that over time, the only thing that can create a spike in emotion, is through a purchase (the effects of which last less than sixty seconds) OR through a stressor like an abusive internet troll or clickbait or an argument that kicks us into Fight or Flight mode. . Some spiritual folk try to go all the way in the other direction and avoid reality altogether, which, in the end… is just as numb as being over-stimulated, yes? Missing out on the Divine gift of human existence.

. So what I advise especially when I work with intuitives, healers, sensitives and artists, is this. Sure, lessen your overall ‘tech’ time but more importantly: learn to be conscious about when and how you receive this stimuli. . Everyone’s had the type of experience where you’re just scrolling Facebook right before bedtime and you come across the most infuriating comment that makes your blood boil. Or finding out by accident on Instagram that that awful boss you used to have, just won the lottery. Or randomly encountering a gory video or a picture of some supermodel’s body or an unsolicited d**k pic. Or checking Whatsapp quickly while you’re on the loo and being hit with a wall of text from someone having a total meltdown. When we PASSIVELY consume tech, letting it be a part of our unconscious function, those bits of stimuli end up ruling our happiness, our emotional safety, our mindset, our stress levels, not to mention our intuition, creativity or healing/psychic ability. . The reason that I chose long ago to NOT conduct Korero sessions in person is because 90% of intuitives that I met were so overstimulated and ungrounded that it was like trying to find clarity in a tidal wave. By giving myself and them the space of physical distance, we could find greater clarity and accuracy rather than just emotional-spiritual dumping. . The next few months of Retrogrades are beautiful in their own way, but have the capacity to be overwhelming and overstimulating. The Jupiter-Pluto signature of this year symbolises BIG cult thinking and BIG egotistical delusions which you absolutely do NOT want to deal with, as an awakened intuitive soul! .

My advice is simple. CHOOSE when and where you engage with tech. Give yourself 40 minutes a day to do emails and ONLY emails, or Whatsapp and ONLY Whatsapp, knowing that, ok, this time may be spent focusing on somebody else’s issues and I'm ready for that. Sit down and use Instagram and nothing else, being *aware* ahead of time that you’ll likely be hit with images that will make you compare yourself against others. Do scholarly research instead of falling down a Youtube or FB rabbithole, as you have no way of safely fortifying yourself against stray information that isn’t helpful or relevant to you. Limit how many people’s opinions you see online. I unfollow nearly everyone! Not because I disagree or dislike their posts; but actually the opposite! Because I want to CONSCIOUSLY interact with them. Once a week I’ll go ‘Ooh, I wonder what XYZ is up to?’ or ‘I love ABC’s writing, lemme check their page’. I choose to access other people's 'stuff' when I'm in the right place to witness or receive it, rather than passively adding it to my mental load.


The most important self-care that you can do personally, whether you’re a witch or just a wise soul, is take back some level of control over what is ALLOWED to influence your emotional and physical state. I’m rolling my eyes at the ULTRA-CAPRICORN of this statement but: being able to PREPARE yourself to receive information is so important rather than allowing it to impact you unconsciously. Important to your creative flow, your psychic ability, your connection to nature.


Be wise, witchies! Care for thyself!

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