Controversial Post: Spiritual Women Are More Than Wombs


It's time for the new age industry's obsession with women's wombs to end.

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This belief (which goes beyond celebrating the womb to actually seeing women solely as a womb-vessel) isn't rooted in spiritual practice or healing, but in religion. Many people find New Age spirituality seeking freedom from religion but in doing so, bring those restrictive judgements &limited beliefs, simply repackaging them as 'spiritual and sacred'.

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It's an idea that the New Age LOVES - that the purpose of a spiritual woman, the pinnacle of her life, is being radiant in pregnancy, breeding the next generation of rainbow children. (And I'm NOT criticising or shaming pregnancy or motherhood. I'm challenging the idea that is pervasive in current spirituality that a woman's entire identity is her womb.)

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Did you know, in my culture, the ultimate female deity is Papa, Mother Nature? Less important than worshipping her WOMB is worshipping her WORK. Which is the clean oceans, the healthy soils.

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Did you know that for thousands of years, poor women were enslaved into breeding so that they could be 'wet nurses' for rich women, or to give them their babies in the event of infertility? Did you know that legal eugenics programs existed to 'breed out' blackness by white colonisers raping Indigenous & women of colour for GENERATIONS until they were having white-passing babies? Did you know that the time in a woman's life where her chance of being abused or murdered skyrockets if she's pregnant? Did you know that child marriage is still a huge issue - in the West? Especially to be poor or to be a WOC means to spend your life reduced to your sexuality and proclivity or willingness to use that as leverage to survive, whether being trafficked for prostitution or perceived as being 'a welfare mom'. . An example? I still remember vividly the first time a fully-grown, adult man projected racial sexual fantasies on me in public, hissing at me that I was 'a little harem girl' and 'exotic' and 'going to make him leave his wife if I kept looking like that'. I was eleven years old. From a young age society indoctrinates girls of colour to be viewed sexually, in contrast with their 'pure' caucasian peers.

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While the open conversations around honouring our wombs are great, they centre only ONE type of female experience - that is, middle-class white women escaping from puritanical ideals of chastity, diet culture and the institution of traditional marriage - and not the experiences of millions of other women and people which is: The need to be heard & valued BEYOND their sexual reproductive system.


What I'm saying is, that our 'Womb Blessing' circles, the groups of dancing around with flowers on our heads is important but it does NOT heal the collective unless we're also actively dismantling the belief that we as women are only COMPLETED by our wombs and motherhood. Recognising that rape and motherhood have been used as tools of war & colonisation for thousands of years, recognising that POC are portrayed overtly sexually from childhood, that all forms of Divine Femininity need to be given a platform in the 2020's and that the platonic ideal of that isn't necessarily a pregnant woman.

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When I talk about the obsession with wombs, I'm not talking about the anti-shame work that lots of women do in order to heal trauma & abuse. I'm talking about all of these brand-new whitewashed messages that 'WOMEN ARE SACRED *BECAUSE* WE HAVE A WOMB'. Ummmm. Where I come from, we don't respect people BASED on their ability to birth a child, but because they have intrinsic value as a human being. Maybe as a mother, yes, but also maybe a warrior, a poet, a ship-builder, a dancer, a Two-Spirit (someone identifying as Other gendered), a wise person, maybe all of those things or none of those things. As women, we are sacred. Full stop. The womb is special because it gives life, but also think about this: the nervous system is special because it has the ability to heal & to influence the potential development of a child. The brain is special because it has the ability to pass on wisdom. The hands are special because they have the ability to keep people safe. The presence of absence of a womb is not what defines a spiritual woman, or any type of woman at all.

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Many of the bravest women I've ever met, weren't born genetically female. Some incredible men I know, transitioned. There are women who are born without wombs or periods or women that have hysterectomies. There are women who aren't the primary caregiver of their kids. There are women with no kids.

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Some of the most powerful work that women are doing, spiritually, are things that we view as traditionally 'masculine' - arguing against control. Protesting. Fighting. Standing up for themselves. Travelling. Challenging systems in court. Fighting to be HEARD in communication. Writing their life stories. Increasing their physical strength. Most importantly, stopping old inherited family patterns and WORKING to halt generations of trauma. Your 'sacred femininity' is an ENERGY, an understanding, NOT your uterus.

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To reduce a woman to her womb is simply stepping back to a religious age, albeit through marketing to women to crown *themselves* because they have a womb rather than waiting to be born into a life of royalty or gentry. Yes, women! Crown yourselves! But not BECAUSE you have a womb, but because you're a powerful, integral, connected soul in a human body and everything you do creates new ways for the Divine Feminine to heal and express herself.

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Let us never forget that the Western world's ultimate spiritual 'mother' - Mary of Nazareth, mother of Jesus - was a 14 year old girl surrounded by old religious men and forced to give birth surrounded by pigs.

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