Decolonising Your Spirit: Why your gifts don't need to be monetized



It's time that we unpack something together.

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The last five years or so as social media has become ubiquitous and big business grows fragile, many people are shifting into entrepreneurship, making a living through and from social media. Whether you're a trainer, a hairdresser, a yogi, a baker, even a 'pimple-popper', you're not working hard enough if you aren't capitalising on ALL that modern society has to offer in order to make that bag!

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On one hand, I love that this is rooted in our collective wisdom that, actually, being stuck in a competitive, toxic office slaving for inhumane corporations is SUPER unsustainable and unhealthy. We're waking up, slowly, and starting to look within for what we have to offer. Aside from swinging tools or pushing buttons or burning out for a paycheck.

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On the other hand, it's important to remember that the 'gig economy' has also come about as a result of inflation, low wages and the inability to support ourselves, pay off debts or feed our family WITHOUT at the very least, a side-hustle on top of a fulltime job.

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Being self-employed is NOT futuristic, if you're in it because your 'day job' is undervalued by your society & government. (But that's a rant for another day).

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What I want to korero with you about is this:

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I am seeing SO MANY people (primarily POC, young people & women) succumbing to valuing their gifts & talents ONLY by their ability to monetize them.

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Because even the most 'positive' of biz coaches and wellness leaders and spiritual gurus are telling you that it's weakness, laziness, fear or mindset that's 'stopping you' from becoming a famous & successful baker, makeup artist, counselor, witch, PT or leader.

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As someone who sees everything in its core energetic form, let me tell you - this messaging, no matter how lovely, light-filled & well-intentioned; is ROOTED in fear + oppression. Babes it is BAD juju.

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I'm not saying to NOT be successful or not to value our labour monetarily.

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What I'm saying is: For our spiritual & mental health, it's of vital importance that we carry on the work of 'awakening' by allowing ourselves to value our positive traits REGARDLESS of their business capital. Because it is TOO EASY to fall prey to the message that your lack of income, confidence, health or social connection is YOUR FAULT for not working hard enough, looking good enough, knowing social media well enough, networking or pushing fast enough. And when you fall prey to that messaging, what do you do? You fear more, you push more, you feel worse, you disconnect from the now, you judge your body, you audit your words, you become self-conscious and lose self-awareness; and you end up in over your head in a rose-quartz-filled mire of 'Why aren't I good enough?'. . In the process to succeed monetarily, you devalue the wholeness of yourself and all you have to offer. Understand?

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For example. I could never be a chef or a baker. But my food is fucking GREAT. (My soups will make you immune to the goddamn plague). I don't work professionally as a reiki healer or masseuse but I've calmed the worst outbursts, the scariest of meltdowns, with a hug or a hand touch. My artwork wouldn't sell in a gallery but I handmake beautiful cards for people I love. I don't make millions from my work & Oprah hasn't come calling but I've seen the power of telling people their spiritual truth & watching them succeed & heal beyond the WILDEST imagination. I don't have a Amazon-bestseller wellness book but I healed my own Endometriosis & Chronic Fatigue/ME diagnoses through intuitive choices. . My gifts, abilities, skills and wisdom are SO boundless and yet, I too have devalued them. By judging them as 'good, but not good enough to...'. It has taken so much WORK to dismantle the thought pattern that says, 'if you stand behind your spiritual beliefs, why aren't you motivated to do daily videos on social media? If you believe in your healing, why DON'T you sell a course on it? Everyone says you have healing hands, but you only use them on friends and family instead of putting in the effort to build a huge clientele & tour'. Can you see how diminishing, how oppressive, how hate-filled and shame-inducing those words are? Do they sound like words from my soul or do they sound like words put into my mouth by society, media & endless middle-management and 'motivational' emotionally-inept dudebros? Can you see how this thought pattern shifts the spirit away from gratitude, integrity & connection to one of judgement, fear and ego? I could go on.

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I KNOW how hard it is to detach from judging our gifts or abilities in terms of fame or financial return. Bc THIS, you see, is old oppression talking. Who cares how nourishing your unphotogenic dinners are? Who cares about your heartfelt post if 18k people didn't like it on Instagram? How important are your hundreds of hours of training & certification if you're too lazy to pump up your SEO to get found on the Internet? Are your healing hands valuable if they only help one person? Is your spiritual wisdom correct if you 'only' save yourself? Is your single signature on a petition, worthy? Are you a leader if you only get 3 clients?

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Do you speak to yourself like this, stacking up your care, integrity & healing abilities against whether or not they're making you well-known or wealthy? Because, loves, I want you to stop.

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(Whether or not they bring you fame or riches is, actually, somewhat out of your hands and tied in deeply to privilege, power, socioeconomic status & social trends. As a society we need to dismantle these structures, but you can't do that if you're allowing them to define your worth in the meantime. You get me? If you want to live in a world where all working people can support their family & access healthcare and education, you need to start valuing human effort & contribution OUTSIDE of the financial sphere. Watch this space for an upcoming rant on spiritual superiority)

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Fight back by valuing ALL of your offerings, all of your service, all of your daily emotional labour. Your hugs, your dinners, your grace when disappointed, your tiny efforts. Your Christmas cards, your sticking up for other people on the Internet, your reading the news to stay educated even when it hurts. The uncredited weekend courses you've done, the way you always iron the sheets before making up a spare bed for visitors, the time you take to tell people the stories of your childhood or country. You aren't lazy or blocked if you love a thing, or are good at a thing, and yet DON'T make a cent off it.

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It has spiritual value beyond what you can yet understand - but we're going to get there together, yes? Decolonising your spirit is a process. . There with you, Kelsey

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